Then my mom got her the Nuby Easy Grip No Spill Cup
when she was about a year old. At first Princess D didn't like it, but after a week she became attached. 
She calls it her "ba ba". She used to only drink out of it, but once she turned 2 her school didn't allow her to have it. Now, she only drinks milk out of it when she is not in school. Additionally, she has to have her beloved blankee when she is drinking her "milk ba ba".
This weekend when we went to my parents I forgot to pack her "ba ba". I figured it would be alright since my parents always have an extra at their house. I was wrong. The weekend before we happened to go home with the spare. The Princess came back from the lake with my dad ready for a nap. When we couldn't find her a "milk ba ba" she had a MAJOR melt down. I rushed to the local store to pick one up, but they are no longer carrying them. I let her pick out an insulated Dora straw cup, but she whimpered and was moody the rest of the day every time she wanted milk.
I don't mind the blankee so much, but it is time for her to give up the "ba ba". She constantly says that she is a BIG girl now. She will only eat on a BIG plate with a BIG spoon or BIG fork. She starts out in her toddler bed at night, but around 5am she moves into my BIG bed because she is BIG like me. She has to do everything on her own and help with everything (especially cooking).
A friend of mine suggested that I introduce a special "fairy" who takes "ba bas" to babies who need them and leaves a little something as a thank you. I have started mentioning this idea to Princess D hoping that she would fall for it. At first she did, but then decided against it saying that she doesn't want to give up her "ba ba". So tonight we made a compromise ... she would give the "ba ba fairy" her blue and yellow "ba bas" since she no longer likes those colors in exchange for a train set! What happened to getting a shiny quarter? What will the "fairy" have to give her in exchange for the red and pink "ba bas"? *sigh*
Do any of you parents have any other suggestions which won't make me blow my budget?
I've heard of the fairy, but suspect it would work better if ALL the "ba ba's" were given over.
ReplyDeleteI've also heard of using it as a milestone. You pick a milestone, like a birthday or something, and you make a big fuss about the child is a "big kid" now, and ba ba's are not for big kids. You then suggest that the child give over their ba ba's to a younger child they know, and apparently the rite of passage works!
I'm not sure whether Princess D would be keen to give up her beloved ba ba's to a younger child though. Sounds like she's pretty attached!!
Hope you work something out! :)
I had trouble getting my son to take a beaker in lieu of a milk bottle. It was silly as he would have milk from his cereal on a spoon, or even from the bowl, but didn't want to give up the bottle. I found a cup that was coloured like a cow, and that seemed to swing it.
ReplyDeleteI just hope a viable, and desirable alternative eventually does the job.
If you let her, she will eventually give up the ba ba on her own. Just show her that 'big' people don't use a ba ba. Since she is so focused on 'big people' stuff - she will get the idea. But let HER do it. Just encourage her, slightly, in the direction you want her to go.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, if you need more cups, HELLO??? Have you NOT MET MY WEB STORE? http://www.goodforthekids.com I give friends special discounts. GAH
ReplyDeleteSecond, the only way I've been able to 'ween' my girls off of anything (pacifiers, diapers, etc) is to count down to D-Day. Give her a date on the calendar or 'in three days' that she'll have no more ba ba. That way she's prepared for it. It's the ONLY thing that's worked for me.
(LOVE the pics. LOVE THEM.)
ReplyDeleteOK. Maybe we can tag team her. I liked Angie's idea of leading up to a date. Maybe we can plan for another weekend where its just "the girls" and we go out and do fun stuff with her that only big girls do? I dont know. I chucked all of Mikey's paci's and bottles when he turned 1. In the trash. It probably damaged him.
Maybe you shouldn't listen to me.
Due to her being so independent, :) you've got to do it all in one fell swoop. If it's setting a date, or having the fairy return for all the ba ba's, or something. She's smart enough to linger this out if you let her.
ReplyDeleteIf you are ok with it, then, yes, let her ween when she is ready. No biggie! If you are not, then you've got to go all or nothing. NOT EASY, but you'll be surprise, in no time, she'll be just fine. Promise. :)
Hugs girl!! Hope you are feeling better!
Okay, this might just be me, but I do not put up with bullshit like that. She is a child, and she will get the eff over it. My kids lost their bottles on their first birthdays, and their sippy cups on their third birthdays. That's the end of it. The problem is that it has become her friend.
ReplyDeleteWell what if her friend was a chainsaw and she liked to cuddle with it and she cried when you took it from her? That's an ABSOLUTELY NOT friend, isnt it?
YOU need to buck up and be tough mommy here, Ba Ba goes, I dont care if a fairy takes it but it is not coming back. Do it and stick to your guns, and she will find something else to fill the void. Nobody ever went suicidal rampage over their mom taking their sippy cup when they were a tot, no sir-ee.
It's obviously become a transitional object for her. If you can find another, more suitable object that she can be empowered to choose (like a stuffed lovey), that's ideal.
ReplyDeleteI've used the situational approach to my advantage as well. If you can change the environment (e.g., at grandma's or on a trip), then you can change the rules. Once you get back to the regular environment, the new rules stay. I know of people who've done this as well with potty training, paci weaning, and other behavioral modifications.
From my experience, the longer you wait for these transitions, the harder they become - for you, primarily.
It sucks, but sometimes we've just gotta be the mom. :)
It's obviously become a transitional object for her. If you can find another, more suitable object that she can be empowered to choose (like a stuffed lovey), that's ideal.
ReplyDeleteI've used the situational approach to my advantage as well. If you can change the environment (e.g., at grandma's or on a trip), then you can change the rules. Once you get back to the regular environment, the new rules stay. I know of people who've done this as well with potty training, paci weaning, and other behavioral modifications.
From my experience, the longer you wait for these transitions, the harder they become - for you, primarily.
It sucks, but sometimes we've just gotta be the mom. :)
How old is she? I say if you can get her to drink out of a regular cup *some* of the time, let her have her baba at others. My 4yo still drinks out of sippy cups simply because he's the more clutzy of my two and is "the spiller".
ReplyDeleteShe just may not be ready to give up all things baby just yet...and maybe that's not a bad thing...(Until you don't have a baba and she freaks out for it.)
My kid still has a blankie and she's 10 I love those cute blankies. Your daughter is adorable
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